Leslie (not her real name) learned recently that her husband Ray was seeing another woman. She was stunned. When Ray told his wife that he had decided to stay with the other woman, it shattered Leslie’s life. At first her shock and anger was directed against her husband: How can he throw away our marriage? How will I support myself? But as time wore on, another list of angry questions surfaced: Lord, is this what you do to your people who trust you? Why have you abandoned me and the kids to face this awful nightmare?
Leslie was becoming angry at God and she knew it. Am I supposed to paste on a good Christian smile and pretend everything’s okay? I can’t relate to the Bible anymore when it tells me to not complain.
Perhaps you’ve been there. Maybe your boss fired you unfairly, or you were abused as a child. Perhaps you’ve been betrayed or you’re dealing with a progressive disease. Maybe your child is dealing with the disease and you are angry at God. You tense up when you think of him being sovereign over your life and all its misery.
As “natural” as anger may be, it has incredible potential to destroy. Some describe it as a black energy that demands immediate release and relief. Ironically, this sort of anger—unrighteous anger—ends up turning on us. It lies to us, telling us that if we would just explode and let off a little steam, we’d be okay. But when we do, we’re left feeling empty and despairing.